Popular media seems to have been full of soft porn for women, from the now infamous Fifty Shades of Gray to the men’s water polo in the Olympics to Magic Mike. It all feels a bit hypocritical, attacking men for enjoying the female form whilst women are only just now embracing the male form.
In particular this bothers me since it seems all about the hype for women. Fifty Shades of Gray has sold more copies than all the Harry Potter books combined yet an astounding only 1/10 have finished the book (also does anyone else find it creepy that Kobe is recording how people read?). Magic Mike has been a hit with women but only for two or three weeks, before it has quickly been moved aside for new films.
What bothers me is not that women are embracing their sexuality, it is that they are doing it because it’s trendy to do so. An hypocrisy has developed because of it, which makes the whole matter worse. A woman’s sexuality, and anyone’s sexuality, should be something that is not altered by the opinions or those around of them. Seeing Magic Mike, I was disappointed in the film’s plot that let a young man’s life spiral out of control with not resolution in the end. When I told my brother this, he told me, the film isn’t supposed to be about a good plot but about men being naked on the screen. Yet, even that was disappointing. I wasn’t tantalized, I wasn’t wowed by the dances or the gorgeous bodies, I wasn’t anything when watching Magic Mike. I was at least expecting to be embarrassed that there was a man watching in the audience with me. Even the hot males seemed to be geared towards how a male would respond to hot women, showing sexy dances that I would expect a women, not a man to be doing. This bothered me even more because of how the female characters were portrayed. There were women that were treated as silent objects that liked to be touched, women that slept around and then, of course, the screaming hysterical women when the male strippers came out. Can I just say, if a male stripper picked me up on stage and started dry-humping me, I would feel extremely uncomfortable. I didn’t even realize strippers were allowed to or wanted to touch their clients. I guess that’s a big no for me ever going to a male strip-club.
What did make me semi-like the film was the end, when the male stripper proves that he can be so much more than a male stripper. The woman he is in love with, who has been ignoring his subtle hints throughout the film, finally accepts him, but only once he turns his life around. She seems to be the only female character with a head on her shoulders and actually holds up a decent role model.
What I want to say is that there is still something wrong in the new-found female sexuality. It’s that it’s not driven by women who are actually embracing their sexuality. It is about the appearance of embracing their sexuality but is it leading to anything useful? Is a post-Fifty Shades of Grey world going to be more conducive environment to being open about female sexuality? Probably not since Fifty Shades is all about a man dominating a woman. What I want is a fad that will actually help women get what they want, not put them back.